While a lot of successful people around the world have a life coach, I wonder, why are other people hesitant in hiring one? Tony Robbins, Rhonda Britten, Bob Proctor, and Esther Hicks have changed so many people’s lives for the better, yet many people think they don’t need help and can do everything by themselves, and are not as big as a priority as seeking out their perfect family doctor, favorite car mechanic, or even their go-to make up artist. The truth is, it helps exponentially to have a support system, especially that of an experienced professional who can aid you in getting where you want to go without wasting time or money. Sorry, well meaning friends and family!
Here are 8 major signs that you may be in need of a life coach to take you to the next level of being the best version of yourself that you can be:
1. You feel lost
If you’re feeling lost and confused, a life coach can sit with you and help you assess where you currently are in your life, where you want to be, your strengths that you can work with, and planning how to get from Point A to Point B. -the perfect starting point for your new life journey.
2. Your confidence is not where you want it to be
Everyone has battle scars, but we all have to move forward regardless of what life throws at us. The difference between those who are happy and sad are the ones who have learned to let that pain, hurt, anger, frustration, and hate go. You can push it deep down, but grief, trauma, and sadness have their ways of creeping up on you when you least expect it. A life coach can help you face your demons, helping to guide you through your pain and memory, helping you heal, let go, and move on.
3. You have a vision, but lack a clear plan
Or your vision is so big, you feel overwhelmed and are all over the place. There are times where you may have a goal, but have no clue as to how to achieve it, and that’s fine. It’s a life coach’s job to get you unstuck by guiding you through the steps of creating a plan of action so that you can get from Point A to Point B. A lot of great things go unrealized due to a lack of organization and clarity, and the world misses out every time.
4. You’re in the middle of a huge transition
Whether you’re looking to make a huge career change, are going through some form of breakup or any other significant life transition, it’s no secret you’ll burn your friends and family out if you treat them like therapists. And believe me, after they hear about how you can totally justify breaking up with Mr. Not-So-Right, but are having doubts if you did the right thing, they well start to avoid you. Or worse, talk about how they went through a break up and how they felt about it and how they are better off for it. Transitions bring up stress, anxiety, and uncertainty, all of which have the tendency to set us on edge and make us feel as though we need to talk things through… over and over again. This is a great time to seek out a life coach for the support you need to seamlessly and effectively transition into your next steps of life with positivity.
5. You’re a Procrastinator
Of all the things we Filipinos got from the Spanish, it’s the mañana habit I hate the most. It’s come to a point where expats who visit the country become frustratingly familiar with the phrase ‘Filipino time’. We all know that procrastinating is bad, but then life (or traffic) gets in the way and that deadline that was two weeks away is suddenly due tomorrow. Or that diet that was supposed to get started in January has gotten pushed back to next year. Reaching your goals takes discipline, action, and it calls for getting things done on time, keeping to a schedule, being accountable for your failures and successes. A life coach can help you change your patterns of behavior and break your habit of procrastinating so that you can move forward and live the life you want.
6. Your patterns are not supporting your goals
So you want to get that big promotion, but instead of working, you’re always on your phone browsing social media sites. You are clear about where you want to be, but you continue to make self-destructive decisions that keep you tied to your bad habits and lack the true commitment to manifesting your dreams into reality and you don’t know how to get on the right track. In the words of John Assaraf, “When you’re interested, you do what’s convenient; when you’re committed, you do whatever it takes.” A good coach will help you clear whatever it is that’s blocking you and help you reach levels of personal commitment and growth you’ve never accessed within yourself.
7. You need to make more money
Money makes the world go round. But money is also the root of all evil. So which belief system do you have when it comes to money? It’s difficult to imagine having a fat bank account when you’re barely making enough to survive. It can be difficult to break into your dream job when you are depending on the steady income that your current one provides. A life coach, however, can help you bridge that gap in making the money you’re looking for while you do something that you love, directing you to resources and providing you with the insight you need to go in a rewarding and profitable direction.
8. You are susceptible to stress
While stress is a normal occurrence in life, there are just some people who can’t cope. If you’re someone who becomes easily stressed or frustrated trying to do things on your own, without any support, will only add to your frustration. You will save yourself a lot of energy, and you will prevent stress and burning yourself out by hiring a life coach to be your support along the way to achieving your goals by helping you find clarity onto your path, but they can also show you relaxation techniques and exercises to help you deal with your stress and to keep you in control of stress, and not the other way around.
So, you’re probably thinking, why not hire a therapist? One key difference between coaches and psychologists is that psychologists focus on looking back to heal, while coaches focus on the future with the strategy of positive psychology. While we may use therapy tools, our intention is always to mirror a mindset shift with an external goal in the world. It’s not just about healing, it’s about positively creating.